Picking a name for your baby is an important decision. Choosing between baby names is a meaningful moment in parenting that will remain a treasured memory. It’s something that will represent that baby their whole life. The name-choosing process can bring the first feelings of parenthood to the forefront for expectant parents, especially if it occurs during the first pregnancy. Something about finalizing the name finalizes the fact that a child exists because of you and you will now be a parent. I've had the joy and privilege of experiencing this seven times. Here’s how the names were chosen for each of my children.
The Naming Process For each of my subsequent baby girls, I wanted their names to be unique. In fact, their names are so unique that it's possible no one else has them - at least not exactly as they are. I put a ton of time and effort into choosing the names for my first three girls, composing most of their names myself, including the meanings for each one. The names needed to include French and/or Native American influences. The first names needed to be very unique and the middle names needed to be simpler, in case the girls wished to use an easier name as they grew older. One has chosen to use her middle name with friends. I spent entire months of each of the first three pregnancies combining letters to form possible names, keeping note of my favorites, eliminating name after name as time went on to eventually come up with the final choices. Ironically, with my second daughter, after all that work, I changed a couple letters last minute as I was filling out the paperwork for the birth certificate. It just came to me to change it for some reason. However, with the fifth child (fourth girl), my partner (at the time) and I varied slightly by choosing something that is an existing name, but is very unique. We wanted a unisex name that still had both the French and Native American influence. I narrowed the choices down to a list of several and sent it to him, not telling him which name I had in mind. He actually favored the same name. So, we went with that. The same process occurred with the next two kids, with us both favoring the same names. To me, there is no one like any of them and I wanted the kids’ names to reflect that. Names should reflect each person’s individuality, rather than going along with the crowd. They should not be copied, but should instead come from the heart. As the kids have grown older, it’s been fun to watch their personalities develop into exactly what the meanings of their names are. They have made me even more of a believer in baby name choice being such an important decision. With my oldest son, I had different thoughts. He was originally going to be a junior, simply because he was the only boy and that was special to his father (my partner at the time). But, that didn't happen. On the day of his birth, I all of a sudden got a change of heart in this baby’s name. I said to him, “I want to name him after your father”. He agreed. Two months later, his father passed away very unexpectedly. I now feel like that was not only an instinct of motherhood, but some sort of sign when I got that change of heart on the name. The Final Names & Their Meanings KaShayonay Amber [Kuh - Shy - Uh - Nay; Am - Ber] - KaShayonay is my first daughter. Her name means patient, kind, loving, ambitious, beautiful, strong-willed, and stylish. The spelling and pronunciation are influenced by both French and Native American languages. But I also derived it from a mixture of letters from two family member’s names. The middle name Amber refers to the gemstone, which is similar to the color her eyes are sometimes (they change colors) and was also taken from another family member. I felt it went along with the stylish and beautiful definitions. She does love fashion and is very creative. Interestingly, all of the meanings did end up fitting her personality. Tiala Chérie [Tee - Ah - Luh; Shay - Ree (Fr.); Shuh - Ree (En.)] - Tiala is the second born. Her first name means cheerful, sweet, helpful, kind, loving, and strong-willed. The spelling/pronunciation of this name has origins in both Native American and French languages. Chérie is French for dear or sweetheart, which goes along with her sweet and helpful aspects. Ajaléa Naté [Ah - Zhuh - Lay - Uh (Fr.); Nuh - Tay (Fr.)] - Ajaléa is the third-born child and third daughter. Her first name means strong-willed and stubborn, creative, loving, kind-hearted, and helpful. The spelling and pronunciation is again influenced by Native American and French languages. Her middle name is French-influenced and means creative and strong. She is definitely both. Nathaniel DeWayne [Nay - Than - Yuhl; Duh - Wayn] - Nathaniel is the fourth-born and goes by Nathan for short and never Nate. Nathaniel means “gift from God”. I’m not religious and this name was simply to carry on his grandfather’s legacy. However, I do feel he is a gift from the universe. Curiously, this is also a French name. DeWayne is his father’s middle name and means “wagon maker,” which goes along with his creative nature. Nova Skye [No - Vuh; Sky] - Nova is the fifth. Her name also has Native American and French roots. In English, Latin, and French, Nova means “new”. But we didn’t choose it for that. In one of the Native American languages, it means “chasing butterflies,” which fits her personality. We also chose it for the starry phenomena known as a supernova. Because of the starry connection, we chose Skye to go along with Nova. The meaning of Skye is obvious. It is a variation of the word sky. True to the name choosings, her personality matches these definitions like those of her siblings have. Kymani Lyrique [Ky - Mah - Nee; Leer - Eek] - Kymani is a variation of Ky-mani, which is a popular African name, traditionally used for boys. However, since when do we do anything “regular” or “normal”? I removed the dash and since she was being named before we knew if we were having a boy or girl, that was to be her name, regardless. Curiously, Kymani has Native American and also Arabic and Muslim roots as well. It typically means “adventurous traveler” and can also represent “huge,” (as in, very important) “leader,” or “strength,” all of which would describe her personality. Lyrique is the French spelling of Lyrical, yes, like song lyrics. She loves making up stories and songs and is always singing. So that turned out perfect, as usual. Mekai Indigo Dustin [Muh - Ky; In - Dig - Oh; Dust - In] - Yes, Mekai has two middle names. But first, let’s talk about the origin of Mekai. This name actually has origins across many cultures from Native American to Japanese to French to British, to African, and many other cultures and countries. They each spell it differently and it has many meanings from God-like, to tree of life, to strong warrior, and more. We mostly resonated with “Tree Of Life.” However, I’d say all the meanings here are fitting. Indigo is a type of Indian dye that holds a deep blue hue with a touch of purple. This is a color of wisdom, creativity, justice, and devotion. It is definitely fitting. Dustin was chosen after a friend’s son who sadly took his life. I chose this name to honor him. It is also associated with thunderstone (or Thor’s stone) and stands for valiant warrior. This is also fitting. 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ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED 1/26/2016 AND LAST UPDATED 5/16/2024
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Congratulations on the upcoming addition to your family! As expectant parents, you're on an incredible journey. To help you prepare, we've crafted a concise essential checklist of what your newborn baby truly needs. Say goodbye to overwhelm and hello to confidence.
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There are many methods for getting children to sleep. They all work in different ways. My daughter actually inspired me to invent this method. It may have been done before, but if it has, I sure haven't heard of it. If I had, it just may have helped avoid some sleepless and restless nights prior to the idea. My hope is that my experience will help other parents get their children off to sleep and dreaming peacefully at night.
One night, my (then) four-year-old daughter was very restless at nap time. I knew she was tired, but she just could not sit still. Call it normal child restlessness or the urge to avoid sleep at all costs - who knows? Whatever the reason, I knew I had to do something about it. First, I tried reading her favorite Dr. Seuss book "Fox In Socks", which was generally a nap time favorite. However, after the story was over she was still fidgeting and she also did so throughout the entire story. I wondered what to do next. "Hmm", I thought to myself. I then tried gently massaging her neck and shoulders, which tends to help on days like this. Nothing. I was forced to think deeper and get more creative. I had it! I laid down beside her and whispered softly in her ear "Close your eyes and pretend you're a pretty butterfly flying high in the sky." She smiled. And closed her eyes. Success! It worked. Within mere seconds, she was fast asleep. Since that day I used the same technique on all of the children many times, with success (until they got old enough that they didn’t want or need it). Each time, I would give them something new to think about. It became somewhat of a game. They’d eagerly await their nightly or nap time suggestion with a look of anticipation on their innocent little faces. Despite the regularity, the looks on their faces were priceless each and every time. I noticed that the suggestive thoughts helped them sleep more soundly. Did they dream them? Did they give them peace? I can't say for sure, but I know that once they had their thought, my kids always slept without tossing and turning and would wake rested and cheerful for the day to begin. They would also drift off to sleep extra fast, seemingly eager to picture the thoughts in their heads. *I originally published a version of this via Yahoo Contributor Network Last updated 7/8/2023 by Lyn Lomasi
Baby Eczema can be either mild or serious. From natural to prescription remedies, treatment options are varied. Here are some of the most common ways to treat baby eczema, as well as a few tips and tricks I learned in dealing with baby eczema in more than one of my kids. Learn how to treat baby eczema and turn your back on it forever, with tips from a mom who knows the pain all too well.
What is Baby Eczema? Eczema, also referred to as atopic dermatitis, is a skin eruption that can cause mild to very severe symptoms, like redness, raised skin, and itchiness. Many times it afflicts those with asthma or allergies, but it can occur in anyone. The exact cause is unknown. Baby eczema is that which occurs in infants. Because babies already have sensitive skin, this can be a delicate issue to deal with. Some infants can even get cracked, bleeding, or even yellow and infected skin, due to eczema. What Can You do to Treat Baby Eczema? There are many ways to treat baby eczema. Keeping the skin clean and moisturized is key. Fragrance free lotions and creams may be a recommended first step. There are over the counter creams, such as cortisone cream, to help treat itching. However, frequent use of those can actually cause further damage to the skin. The doctor may also prescribe an ointment or cream to treat the eczema or an antihistamine to help control the itching. What Worked for My Baby's Eczema? Each child is different, as far as how they react, as well as which treatments worked. Here are a few of the treatments that worked best for us. I have more than one child who was prone to eczema flare-ups as a baby. Even the doctor-recommended lotions and creams that were fragrance free would irritate the eczema, rather than helping, in our case. Original A+D Ointment - I decided to try the A+D ointment one day after asking the pediatrician. To my surprise, the A+D ointment started working fairly quickly. I noticed results the same day and began using the ointment every day. After that, flare-ups started occurring less and less and eventually cleared for good. The same thing happened in three cases, so I definitely recommend talking to a doctor about the A+D ointment. Medline Remedy Olivamine Clear-aid Skin Protectant - One of my babies would break out very easily and her eczema rashes didn’t respond to anything until we tried the Medline Remedy Olivamine Clear-aid Skin Protectant. This was recommended by NICU nurses for our preemie baby’s diaper rashes. But we liked it a lot and started using it for all skin irritations in multiple kids. It turns out that any time there’s a rash, dry skin, or other skin irritation, this cleans it up quickly, sometimes in just a few minutes, which is like a miracle, compared to other treatments that take days or months. With the kids this was tried on, flare-ups only seem to occur when they're accidentally exposed to an allergen. Other than those instances, after using this on every flare, it hasn't come back at all. Homemade Intent-sive Healing Baby Balm - Once we better learned what worked and didn't on everyone's sensitive skin, we decided to invent our own healing balm with all natural ingredients. While the above methods worked, we found the homemade healing baby balm was not only clearing up outbreaks, but it was making the skin healthier day by day. Not only is everyone's skin glowing now, but all outbreaks have completely stopped, even when they are accidentally exposed to things that made them break out previously. When Should You Call a Doctor for Baby Eczema? A properly licensed pediatrician or family practice doctor should always be contacted if you suspect that your baby has eczema or notice any other rashes or skin irritations. Treatment options should also be discussed with a doctor. If you hear about a product or treatment option that your child's pediatrician has not mentioned, discuss it with him or her before trying it on the child's baby eczema. Extra Tips for Treating Baby Eczema
*Note that the author is not a licensed medical professional. This is intended for informational purposes only, as individual results may vary. Always contact a licensed medical professional for health matters.
Sources: Personal experience http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/eczema/DS00986
Last updated 7/9/2023 by Lyn Lomasi
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